Choose to Lead With Your Heart

This article explores intellectualizing and how it effects us. The results of thinking too much separate us from others. This short read will offer a few suggestions about how to begin to reach others by coming from the heart.

Background

Many of us intellectualize too much and stay in our head parts of the day – some much of the day. Intellectualizing is very easy to do, since there isn’t anyone watching with the ability to see into our heads, with nobody patrolling what we think: this is as easy and effortless as day-dreaming with absolutely no one to bother us or hold us accountable. Maybe this a sure way to a complete state-of-bliss… or insanity … or not.

How About You?

What do you think? Have you spent much time inside your head thinking about stuff? Has anyone reading this ever worried? Been concerned about stuff? Tried to come up with solutions to problems? Just plain thought about “the What if’s”?

Yes, of course, you have! Even if you aren’t yet willing to admit to this line of questioning because you don’t know where it’s going yet…

Hold your horses, this isn’t going to be difficult or painful – just fruitful and enlightening.

Being in Your Head

We’ve been told often in the past few years that being in your head can be a pretty creepy place to be at times. Especially, when the committee begins to participate with passion – they aren’t all that kind, and/or somewhat scary because the voices and ideas just won’t stop – get out of my head already!!!

We’re not talking anything close to insanity – just normal thinking – over and over… like we all do, incessantly. Sometimes.

There certainly is goodness associated with being able to think about things, come up with ideas, solve problems, determine how to choose between some alternatives, etc. But, we all become obsessive at times and think too much – that is the point here. There is no one to stop us either, except ourselves – that can be scarier than anything too!

So, we are asking you to just stop being in your head…for a few moments to follow some very effective suggestions about coming from another place.

A Helpful Definition

Historical references to heart are found in many places like the Bible, Greek tragedies, philosophy, religion, etc. – you name it, you’ll find it.

Why not place the heart as the center of our feelings? Try this simply as an experiment and begin your approaches for today, by being led by your feelings using both love and compassion as a staring point.

Image Background

This photograph shows the radiance of how our heart affects us at times: like a wave stretching outwards across our bodies and people around us: felt and understood without words.

Historical Perspective

Romantic notions about the heart have existed in history and literature across all societies for ages. The heart is the center of all our feelings. We make frequent references to this idea in our language by saying feeling things like, “At the bottom of my heart" or “My heart hurts,” etc.

Historical reference to love comes in about the twelfth century and impacts the church and many forms of thinking and believing through most domains. Science does not consider the heart anything other than the main machine of our bodies. But, with new understanding, this is a beginning for change.

Start Small

We want you to capture the sense of these two essential ideas/beliefs/feelings so profoundly that you express yourself from a place called “At the bottom of your/my heart.” Most of us know this to some degree, sometimes sensed little or significantly: keep at it because we know that benefits will accrue to you. Let’s ask you a question.

What would occur if you attempted to do that, instead of coming from your head?

Getting in touch with your feelings (i.e., we suggest sincerely) can be scary for some of us. Especially for the inexperienced in particular, mid-westerners as a norm, men-from-mars, and other tough-it-out-believers, or I-will-always-do-it-on-my-own-people and you-can’t-teach-me-anything-new-crowd. You may find yourself in some of these definitions or not.

Heart Activities Requires Re-Alignment

Feelings may be a massive leap for some of us even to consider this approach – it will be easier for you if you have a little faith: we strongly suggest that you act as if you believe it is possible. We have found that this particular belief strategy works well, especially with lots of practice. What seems to happen for most who practice this, is that the belief about coming from the heart does come present – sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly.

We consider this an intangible systemic belief in which we refer to “Leading From The Heart” with associated results, choices, and actions – all definable, measurable, and modifiable. We will publish an example of this shortly.

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